I didn't understand much of this.

me personally "I'll tell you later" is not communication, it's avoidance of communication, which leads to more serious problems later and the reason many couples break up. people don't want to be around people they have to guess at everything all the time. one of the reasons they get involved is because they care about the other person.
evasive communication means you have to guess for someone, and you'll guess wrong everytime unless you're a mind reader. and if you have to guess what someone means all the time, me personally, why bother or you're just desperate and settling. I'd rather guess myself elsewhere, because I'll guess correctly on my own, and one less thing to worry about. and worrying causes gray hairs, and you know how we women are with those
people also don't like to be kept in the dark, thus WHY questions are asked. take the revelations of many down-low men in relationships with women. the devastation of the women who find out long after the fact is sometimes unrecoverable. I saw this just this Fri on Oprah.
but to answer your not a real man comment,

that was a joke and a joke after several references to the "c" word and after hearing other stuff as well.
as for man penetrating another man: Lev. chapt 18, verse 22, and yeah yeah, i know some feel "Jesus" makes this acceptable, but i seem to recall Yesohua stating he came to confirm the law, which is that of Moses set for GENERATIONS. God's timeframe isn't years, it's generations. And Yesohua is a direct descendant of Moses. I think we're to love all and do unto others, but that didn't mean others can do whatever the hell they want and forget God's own words. how offensive do you think that is to God? take a wild guess.
my thing is each person is accountable for their own actions, and I'm not looking at each person I meet as gay or straight, only how much integrity they have, because for day to day experiences, THAT is what matters most to me.