for women in her situation, she needs to realize that what happened wasn't about her, and to let that change her into thinking she's a bad person because the relationship failed because of sexual preference and other issues. she needs to find her true self, which is hard for women because they spend so much time running to a relationship out of fear of being alone w/out even knowing who they are or much about the person they're running to.
- many people still fall in love with hookers daily even knowing it's a fantasy. Tam, I have to address your opinions I highlighted in red. You have ME confused as a person. You're suggesting that this lifestyle was something that was going to be my path regardless, and that is truly not the case at all. Being that you can't place yourself inside of me, and feel what I felt back then, you can't say that I wasn't heterosexual just because you know that I mess with men now. My feelings never were ALLOWED to get to this point until after I left my daughter's mother. The experiences I had had with dudes before our break-up were all out of curiousity. It's just like people who have tried this and that drug out of CURIOUSITY, and then later on was rehabilitated. I KNEW for a fact that I did not want to be with a man (Then) ... I wanted her. The first dude I ever had sex with was a very good friend of mines, which she actually knows, and loved him ... We spoke about what we did while I was in the military. And I told him then, we could never do that again. He understood, and we knew that we would be friends forever after. It was upon my going into the military that I learned the value of raising a family, taking care of home, being the MAN of the household. I learned so much in the military, I don't wanna go on and on about it right now. But you are making it seem like had she married me, I would have eventually cheated on her with a man, and that is NOT the case. I believe in a monogamous relationship. I matured to a certain level when I was in the military, and all I wanted was for her and my daughter to be with me. I didn't give shit about laying with a man ..because (at that time) ... I didn't see anything a MAN could do for me LONG-TERM ... and I damn sure wasn't gonna be doing funny shit, being married, having a daughter. Lord have mercy. I look down upon men who do that NOW. To this day. I KNOW MEN personally that have families and they sleep with men, and I ALWAYS TELL them how I disapprove of that. So we are going to have to agree to disagree, but you do have your opinion.Name Is On Layaway wrote:somehow I knew Dean was gonna respond to this one for several reasons.
anyway, she loved a heterosexual man and had an idea that their man/woman/child family would be together forever or that the heterosexual love was reciprocal.
perhaps in your confusion and being given a daughter, you possessed stronger feelings for her that both of you interpreted as love. however, your ultimate desires are for men, not women, therefore, she loved a heterosexual man who could not fulfill her heterosexual needs and thoughts (a heterosexual man who couldn't exist), thus her hurt which she is probably taking internally, which is normal for anyone to blame themself first either for not knowing sooner or NOT being told sooner, as in the person didn't have enough respect for me to tell me sooner before more feelings developed.
people's hearts are not toys, they're the essence of their soul.
it's like getting involved with a prostitute who's always around, shares feelings in a caring way, but the trick's ultimate goal is getting paid and moving on to higher paying customers, while the other person involved is twisting their sincereness and caring with love.
if you give people facts at all times or in the case of a prostitute, make it clear up front that only a fantasy is being provided, the person can make the right choices ahead of time, not have them suffer the consequences of not knowing later. sidebar
just my human opinion
